Choosing Your Maid of Honor



It is your Maid of Honor’s job to make sure that you get to the church on time, you look your best and that your dress stays out of the mud. Choosing your Maid of Honor may be easy, especially if you have a sister who you are close to. However, if you don’t have a sister or don’t get on with her, you may find that you are stuck for choice.

Someone Willing to Take On Responsibilities

The first thing is to find someone who is willing to take on responsibilities. Your Maid of Honor will be in charge of your Hen Do, getting you to the church on time, signing the register and looking after you throughout the day to make sure everything goes to plan. This can be a lot for some people and is not something all your girlfriends will want to do.

You also need to think about anything extra you may ask the Maid of Honor to do. While it is not tradition, asking her to say a speech is becoming more popular. You may also want someone to deal with the photographer, videographer or anyone else important on the day.

Does It Have to be Your Sister?

Of course not; your Maid of Honor is who you want to have that title. Personally, I didn’t have a Maid of Honor. Each of my bridesmaids had something important to do on the day. My sister walked up the aisle with the Best Man, another bridesmaid did a reading, the third witnessed the signing of the register and the final one sat at the top table. That worked for me and all my friends accepted that was what I wanted to do.

You need to pick someone you are close to and who you want to shoulder all the responsibility. For many, this is a sister or a best friend. You may have a cousin who you are close to or your partner’s sister may be the one person you want there. This is completely up to you; there is no need to explain yourself to anyone.

Someone You Can Rely On

There is a lot to do during the day and in the lead up to the wedding. You need someone to help with choosing your wedding dress, with setting up the venue and with being there for you on the big day. This means choosing someone you can rely on. It is worth thinking about whether the person you want has something personal that may affect her ability to be there for you; maybe a baby, divorce or wedding of her own.

Choosing your Maid of Honor does not need to happen as soon as you start planning your wedding. You could have a few people in mind and delegate a few early tasks to them. This will help you determine the right person for this important duty to make your wedding day something to remember for the right reasons.

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